I've been "defriended" a few times but only once have I been hurt by it, that one time it was someone that I knew.
I started identifying as lesbian after going to a gay/les/bi youth group for a while—while I was an undergrad, natch. Before that I'd identified as bi (and before that, as nothing). I think the politics of the particular group pressured me into changing my label, which I was never very sure of in the first place; despite "bi" being in the name of the group, I remember one of the facilitators remarking that she didn't really believe in bisexuality. Anyway, at the time I was dating a girl, and I wasn't attracted to men at all.
*nodnod* Yes, I've found that more than a few people in the GBLT community feel that the 'B' is a myth and that people who claim that just have one foot left in the closet. For them, bisexuality is just a long coming out process that should be discarded as soon as the bisexual becomes fully aware of her identity.
And if that bisexual should steadfastly hold onto that 'B'? She better darn well choose a woman to date/live with. Because if she should take up with a man? She's sold out and is offending everyone with her 'straight privilege'
but to me sex is pretty much just extra-intense cuddling
I think you're brave and wonderful for bringing the personal into this post. And I want to thank you for reminding me that there's such a vast array that comprises what we call sexuality.
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Date: 2005-01-11 08:52 pm (UTC)I started identifying as lesbian after going to a gay/les/bi youth group for a while—while I was an undergrad, natch. Before that I'd identified as bi (and before that, as nothing). I think the politics of the particular group pressured me into changing my label, which I was never very sure of in the first place; despite "bi" being in the name of the group, I remember one of the facilitators remarking that she didn't really believe in bisexuality. Anyway, at the time I was dating a girl, and I wasn't attracted to men at all.
*nodnod* Yes, I've found that more than a few people in the GBLT community feel that the 'B' is a myth and that people who claim that just have one foot left in the closet. For them, bisexuality is just a long coming out process that should be discarded as soon as the bisexual becomes fully aware of her identity.
And if that bisexual should steadfastly hold onto that 'B'? She better darn well choose a woman to date/live with. Because if she should take up with a man? She's sold out and is offending everyone with her 'straight privilege'
but to me sex is pretty much just extra-intense cuddling
I think you're brave and wonderful for bringing the personal into this post. And I want to thank you for reminding me that there's such a vast array that comprises what we call sexuality.