A lot of what you wrote here feels like you were describing my life instead of yours!
*Hugs* right back at you!
I mean, that's a big part of why I decided to make this whole long post, instead of just saying "btw, I'm asexual" and jumping into the fic discussion. Because it's so reassuring to realize that other people have similar experiences!
I have the same level of attraction for anyone and react similarly to fetish aspects regardless of the gender of the fictional character.
Haha, yeah. The fetish aspect is one of those "other things" that I didn't mention in my neat, linear narrative. I thought about including it, but it probably would have doubled the length of the post! But it's true, as far as the fetish is concerned, for me it doesn't matter if the character is a man, a woman, or an anthropomorphic flower. One of the things in the AVEN FAQ that was really important for me to see was that being asexual doesn't necessarily mean that you don't experience sexual arousal, and that some people who are asexual do nevertheless have kinks or fetishes. ::checks the current FAQ:: It's still there! "Asexual people can still have libidos or experience arousal, but do not experience any intrinsic attraction or desire to engage in sexual activities with other people. This may include kinks or fetishes – activities or sensations that arouse a person sexually, but have nothing to do with wanting sex with another person."
I've written ace!Sherlock when it comes to fanfic
About eight years ago I met someone in RL who turned out to be fannish, and on my first coffee date with her I did end up coming out as both asexual and poly (because in the context of our fanfic discussion, these points were pertinent). She immediately said "Oh, I just read a great Sherlock fic in which Sherlock is asexual and poly!" and sent me a link. The memory still makes me smile (and I'm still friends with her!). That was actually a really important moment in the validation of my identity, for me!
I think I reread Before the Time of Dawn at least once a year :-)
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Date: 2019-05-26 10:42 pm (UTC)*Hugs* right back at you!
I mean, that's a big part of why I decided to make this whole long post, instead of just saying "btw, I'm asexual" and jumping into the fic discussion. Because it's so reassuring to realize that other people have similar experiences!
I have the same level of attraction for anyone and react similarly to fetish aspects regardless of the gender of the fictional character.
Haha, yeah. The fetish aspect is one of those "other things" that I didn't mention in my neat, linear narrative. I thought about including it, but it probably would have doubled the length of the post! But it's true, as far as the fetish is concerned, for me it doesn't matter if the character is a man, a woman, or an anthropomorphic flower. One of the things in the AVEN FAQ that was really important for me to see was that being asexual doesn't necessarily mean that you don't experience sexual arousal, and that some people who are asexual do nevertheless have kinks or fetishes. ::checks the current FAQ:: It's still there! "Asexual people can still have libidos or experience arousal, but do not experience any intrinsic attraction or desire to engage in sexual activities with other people. This may include kinks or fetishes – activities or sensations that arouse a person sexually, but have nothing to do with wanting sex with another person."
I've written ace!Sherlock when it comes to fanfic
About eight years ago I met someone in RL who turned out to be fannish, and on my first coffee date with her I did end up coming out as both asexual and poly (because in the context of our fanfic discussion, these points were pertinent). She immediately said "Oh, I just read a great Sherlock fic in which Sherlock is asexual and poly!" and sent me a link. The memory still makes me smile (and I'm still friends with her!). That was actually a really important moment in the validation of my identity, for me!
I think I reread Before the Time of Dawn at least once a year :-)
Oh my gosh, that makes me so happy to hear! :-D