Thanks so much for sharing yourself! *hugs* Being able to empathize with and identify with others isn't restricted to fictional characters. A lot of what you wrote here feels like you were describing my life instead of yours! Though your relationships sound ideal to me, and I don't have any of those :-)
would say that I was bi. (I justified it to myself mathematically; it's true that I'm equally sexually attracted to both men and women, but did anyone specify that the level of attraction had to be non-zero?) I've also started internally considering myself pan for the same reason. I have the same level of attraction for anyone and react similarly to fetish aspects regardless of the gender of the fictional character. Soooo I've been trying out the pan label on myself for about a year now. So nice to hear that someone else is sort of in the same boat in how to explain/justify this.
I look forward to your thoughts on writing an asexual character. About the time I realized I was asexual, I realized one of my characters I'd been writing for 10+ years was as well. "Ooohhhhhh! THAT'S why he'd been wanting me to write him like that. NOW I get it!" I've written ace!Sherlock when it comes to fanfic, and I have an ace character in an unfinished YA novel (and maaaaybe an ace fetishist character in an unfinished BDSM erotica novel; she seems to be presenting as ace, but I don't know her well enough yet to know for certain). It's been interesting writing each of them, figuring out what their preferences and comfort levels are, figuring out how each of them relates to the world and the romantic or sexual elements in it that might present themselves.
Also, I don't know Once a Thief, but congrats on writing again! I think I reread Before the Time of Dawn at least once a year :-)
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Date: 2019-05-26 09:50 pm (UTC)would say that I was bi. (I justified it to myself mathematically; it's true that I'm equally sexually attracted to both men and women, but did anyone specify that the level of attraction had to be non-zero?)
I've also started internally considering myself pan for the same reason. I have the same level of attraction for anyone and react similarly to fetish aspects regardless of the gender of the fictional character. Soooo I've been trying out the pan label on myself for about a year now. So nice to hear that someone else is sort of in the same boat in how to explain/justify this.
I look forward to your thoughts on writing an asexual character. About the time I realized I was asexual, I realized one of my characters I'd been writing for 10+ years was as well. "Ooohhhhhh! THAT'S why he'd been wanting me to write him like that. NOW I get it!" I've written ace!Sherlock when it comes to fanfic, and I have an ace character in an unfinished YA novel (and maaaaybe an ace fetishist character in an unfinished BDSM erotica novel; she seems to be presenting as ace, but I don't know her well enough yet to know for certain). It's been interesting writing each of them, figuring out what their preferences and comfort levels are, figuring out how each of them relates to the world and the romantic or sexual elements in it that might present themselves.
Also, I don't know Once a Thief, but congrats on writing again! I think I reread Before the Time of Dawn at least once a year :-)