Hm, pr'haps that was a little apropos nothing? But it's been on my mind lately...maybe especially today because I had the "why we do not insult our classmates by calling them gay" talk with one of my grade 9s today.

It really bugs me, actually, that every time I refer to my husband in conversation I'm sending out this implicit message of straightness. Not that there's anything wrong with being straight—heh—but the politics of it depress me. I feel like every time I let people think I'm straight, I'm doing my little bit for queer invisibility. Ugh. But at the same time, I am in a monogamous het relationship, all legally married and everything. My orientation may not be straight, but my lifestyle certainly is.

Thus the footnote.